Lana regularly offers support to women struggling with narcissistic abuse and other difficult family or relationship issues through her blogs. You don`t have to be crazy about your mother-in-law. However, studies suggest that a difficult relationship between parents and grandparents, no matter who is to blame, causes children to lose potentially valuable relationships. Fortunately, there are ways to nip bad relationships with in-laws in the bud. For example, you need to keep conversations away from family drama and minimize personal attacks on family members and strangers. Nevertheless, it is always difficult and sometimes impossible to get along with your partner`s parents. Yes, I had a mother-in-law who was very controlling and disrespectful to me, and she beat me and threw my kids in the air to divorce and tried to poison me every time I got pregnant. However, she was also into black art, where she hurt me repeatedly, even to the point where she beat my ex-husband, and he did. Later in my years, I found out that she was only looking for money because my ex-husband wanted her to get a job without realizing he couldn`t give me money to buy diapers because he told me to ask his mother to do it. Plus, it turned out that he was so afraid of her that he broke down and cried because she had controlled him so much (he was 30) that he couldn`t tell me why. I went to her house to find out what had happened, only to find out that she wanted me to divorce him to leave him because she knew it was her sauce train. It was me or her and I divorced my ex-husband because he sided with her and took the kids and she raised them and tried to prove that I was an inappropriate mother.
Not to mention pointing his gun at me as a threat. I had these toxic signs of NDE in my first failed marriage. One of the reasons my marriage didn`t work out was mainly his. She was so curious about everything I was doing, including my overseas plan for my nuclear family. My ex-husband was by her side. It doesn`t matter and I clearly understood that between a woman and an NDE, I would not let my ex-husband choose between me or my NDE because it was a battle of certain defeat for me. She is his mother and I am just a wife. I have a very toxic mother-in-law who pretended to love my marriage and her son`s marriage solely for her son`s sake. She is the kind of person who always wants to be right and be the center of attention.
Last year, after visiting the nursing home, she and my husband decided to go to Atlantic City and play free agent without telling me first. I had to call my husband`s phone and he said he left him in the car, I didn`t call his phone, he picked it up. They played slots in Atlantic City from 7 a.m. to 3 a.m. the next day. Then, after my husband and I got a new house, he gave her the key to the house because they claimed she helped him fix the house, but you told me you gave her the key to the house that I discovered after making it and 2 together. Then I have the nerve to tell myself this thought that I have no problem with her having a key. Well, when my kids and I saw her, talked to her, said hello and hugged her, but my kids didn`t see her and told them they weren`t talking. I told them to talk and she said they didn`t have to and got angry and left.
Now I tried to talk to her, but now she doesn`t talk to me. I greeted her earlier out of respect and she acts like a teenager who is left behind in her feelings. She saw her son and me smiling and we had our arms around each other, and she looked dissatisfied. What to do with this woman??? I suffer from severe PTSD because of all the abuse my mother-in-law and her horrible and equally bad daughter have suffered. Mothers should make great efforts to prevent an adult child from choosing between her and her partner, even in trivial matters. This is a battle that simply cannot be won. Instead, find ways to encourage and support their marriage. My toxic mother-in-law was cut off from life for 12 happy and peaceful months, she called at strange times for my husband to respond because he thought something was wrong. He sent her a three-word text for Mother`s Day a month ago and she`s been sneaking in ever since. My husband seems to forget all the horrible things she said and did. She is a masterful manipulator. I`m at my breaking point.
What must I do? There will be times when she will be nice to you (usually after you have done something she approves). She could give you a nice birthday present, support your opinion or compliment you (or at least for once refrain from insults). At this point, you might be tempted to think she`s starting to accept you. But don`t be fooled. But if you focus on kindness, kindness, support, and respect, you should weather the storm without incident. Things may not always turn out the way you hoped, and you may not have the relationship with your adult child`s partner you dreamed of, but you`ll know you`ve made an effort to be the best version of yourself. Mothers-in-law are known to be controlling, critical, critical, and arrogant. And like any toxic person, a toxic mother-in-law is a soul-sucking parasite that feeds on your misery. To protect yourself and your loved ones, you need to know your enemy. Here are 14 signs that you might be dealing with a poisoned mother-in-law. Let them know that you need to discuss some important things away from the kids and set up an appointment.
Share your feelings about your mother-in-law`s attacks and criticism with love and patience. Like all girls, I was very happy after my marriage and after only 2.5 years of marriage, I have suicidal thoughts as my NDE is very disruptive, controlling and manipulative.